All of us have gone through difficult and unexpected challenges. Whether it be a relationship that didn't work out, getting fired from a job, dealing with the stress of divorce, or suffering from an illness, life throws us curve balls that can seriously take us off track... if we let them.
The worse thing about these kinds of setback is that we are often further discouraged by our reaction to them. Though we wish we could pick ourselves up and move on, something inside us can't. Our friends get tired of hearing us lament, and we feel more and more alone. It leaves us asking ourselves, "What's wrong with me? Why can't I get over this?"
Here are a few options that you might want to try if you are having a hard time getting over a difficult time.
Change Your Attitude
Getting our attitude and actions back on track is the first step to empower us to respond to life's setbacks, and even to turn them into positive experiences. This requires practice and patience, but it is a lifeskill that is essential to a successful, happy life.
Find Your Practice
When things go wrong, where do you turn?
It probably depends on whether or not you've set up a healthy practice to go to when you face stress and anxiety. Some people depend on a favorite exercise or sport to regain balance after a fall; others rely on prayer or meditation. Sometimes, natural remedies like passion flower and kava are helpful in order to regain balance and find a natural calm, and some find it helpful to seek out therapy.
Whichever method works for you, it's important to set up these healthy practices so that when you go through a difficult time, you can take comfort in knowing you have a healthy outlet to regain your composure.
When you face a setback, it's easy to want to shut yourself away and take a step back from everything until you figure out what to do next. Though this might seem like a healthy response, it can actually lead to getting in a rut.
When you are dealing with a set back, stay active.
Apply for new jobs, go on a trip, or take up a new hobby, even if you don't feel like it. Forcing yourself to continue with your life is a a hard but necessary way to get your mind off of what happened and remember that life goes on.
Learn From It
Setbacks happen to all of us.
The main thing that sets apart those who recover and those who don't is the ability to find a lesson and meaning in the setback.
Whatever happened, whether it was something in your control or not, take some time to reflect on how it can teach you something about yourself or about life. Maybe you didn't get the job because you didn't prepare like you could have. Maybe your illness reminded you of the value and meaning of life.
In order to fit your setback into your life narrative, find out what it means for you and how it can help make you a better person going forward. There is always a silver lining.